How can Tom Daley and his husband both be the dad?

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  1. Farnham_Red

    Farnham_Red Administrator Staff Member Admin

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    Just seen this story and whilst happy for them both I am a bit puzzled

    Surely only one of them can actually be the real dad and if the baby is growing somewhere there has to be a mum or am I missing something? Has medical science advanced further than I thought?

    http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-devon-43062264
     
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    They've both jizzed into a cup and it's mixed like a cup of coffee.
     
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    Proper lol
     
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    If you adopted a child you would class yourself as their dad. I think they are saying that to them it makes zero difference who the biological dad is (if in fact one of them is the real dad or not).
     
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    World has really lost its marbles .
     
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    Why, because two people want to be parents?
     
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    It seems you haven't quite caught up with this being the 21st century yet.
     
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    Being a dad is about more than some sperm.

    Know what you are getting at Farnham, in terms of genetics, but in reality I can't see the problem.
    Too many kids have parents that are abusive, not there or generally not suited in any way to bringing up a kid
    (drug addicts, Wednesday fans, etc). This kid will have a very good start in life.
     
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    robert.hall.545849 Well-Known Member

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    I still happen to believe that children are better off with natural parents . 1 mother and 1 father . But no doubt I’m not allowed to express a view because it doesn’t conform to modern thinking . I’m a bit traditional like that !
     
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    mansfield_red Well-Known Member

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    Children are better off with parents who love and provide for them. I don't see how the gender or sexuality of the parents is relevant.
     
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    I think you just have?
     
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    Both blokes, both raising a kid, both dad's.

    Not really sure why that would be confusing?
     
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    Unlike this post. Not getting your thrust?
     
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    As long as the child has someone who loves them and looks after them, I don’t think it matters one bit.
     
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    My bad, I read it as "how can they both be dad's". Reading is hard;)
     
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    John Peachy Well-Known Member

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    No, it's in Berkshire. Soft as sh!te.
     
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    I agree with you that this kid will be well loved by both his dads and I have no problem with the situation at all, I just cant quite work out how there is no mention of an actual mother - even if she wants to remain anonymous.
     
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    Oooh look, you expressed it and no one has stopped you
     
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    Probably because what’s the point? We know there has to be one so it would just have a line saying it will be born via a women which is so obvious it isn’t worth saying.
     
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    Yes, I kinda got what you were driving at re genetics. I assume this mother has carried the child for a sh!tload of money, but has had to remain anonymous as part of the deal. She may have some contact with the kid, depending what they have agreed on. That would be a wise approach, as the kid would understand as it grew up what had happened & not have to search for the womb provider.
     

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