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  1. monkey tennis

    monkey tennis Well-Known Member

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    It's all about you're daughter mate...don't even think about not seeing here pal as it will it only be used against you in the future...keep you're powder dry....always( within reason) be available for you're kid..I know it's hard with a new bloke on the scene but don't rock the boat or give you're ex any mud to sling...hope it works out pal...all the best mate...sithi.
     
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    Please be kind to yourself Norfolk your daughter definitely needs her dad in her life.

    Kids are creatures of routines and when their routines change they react to it. Your daughter going home will have little to do with you as a dad I'm sure and more that she's adjusting to the change in her life.

    Jam drops advice seems spot on in that starting smaller and working up to weekends will probably work better.

    Im in a relationship where my partner has children from a previous relationship and I only want to do what I can to make them happy I absolutely do not want to take their fathers place. I'm sure this new fella will be the same.

    What I do see is there are times their dad won't make an effort with them for whatever reason and that is what upsets them, they just like to see their dad it doesn't matter what they do just spending time together. So please please keep trying to be strong for her.

    As many others have said there is definite real help out there to support people in this situation with no judgement it's 2018 and feeling down is nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about people just want to help and I guarantee the world is better off with you in it.
     
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    NorfolkRed Well-Known Member

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    JamDrop Well-Known Member

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    You alright Norfolk? I’m setting off driving home in about 5 minutes which takes me around an hour so I apologise if I can’t reply straight away but I can help talk things through if you’d like.
     
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    Please don't Norfolk, there's always a way out nothing is ever as bad as you think I promise.

    Can someone post that number to ring?

    Please at least speak to someone first
     
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    Right Admin - can we please try and contact Norfolk Red directly to make sure he's okay ? I'm not comfy with drama so apologise if I'm over reacting but 'si thi' in the context of this thread doesn't look good
     
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    TBH only a couple of months after your breakup is probably too early for you and your daughter to get used to the new situation. Instead of sitting at home with her on a weekend, make plans. Take her to the beach, or the zoo/wildlife park - you know what she likes to do so make it something to look forward to for both of you. She is your daughter forever and you can make some great memories for both of you. McDonald's dads are a stereotype, but you can make your time together fun without lots of the rigmarole of daily life.

    On a separate note, its too soon for her to have met your ex's new bloke really. That is probably a mistake as most new relationships fail and your daughter doesn't want or need a football team of different stepdads over the next few years.
     
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    I'm sent you my number via PM. Happy for you to ring if it may help, I can't change much but at least I can listen and talk. All the best.
     
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    Has anyone heard from Norfolk since his last post?
     
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    There are people in life who you haven't met yet, maybe some you have who can help turn things round. Don't give up hope. Life may seem like a long tunnel at times but there's always a light to be found if you let people help.
    Hope you're ok Norfolk.
     
  11. Red

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    PLEASE take notice of all these brilliant people, they are talking sense, i was devastated after my 35 year marridge broke up STAY STRONG you will get through this, talk talk talk DON'T bottle it up, YOUR Daughter will need HER Dad, GOOD LUCK
     
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    PLEASE listen to this brilliant people it will get better, I was devastated when i split but I've never been happier,, it takes time be STRONG for your Daughter she still needs you, she will remember you being there for her in years to come, trust me I've been there.
     
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    Hicksy Administrator Staff Member Admin

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    If you need someone to speak with ring me. 07976 512271

    I meant it.
     
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    Gally Administrator Staff Member Admin

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    Tried a few avenues to get hold of him but not heard back yet
     
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    Hicksy Administrator Staff Member Admin

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    He’s been in touch via email. Isn’t in a good place but he’s contacted me
     
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    Julian Broddle's Perm Well-Known Member

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    Above and beyond that mate.
    And that's as a fellow man, not an administrator.
    Well done and hope your input has helped.
     
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    Sparky Well-Known Member

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    Well done Hicksy lets hope everyone can help get him through this bad time
     
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    Donny Red Well-Known Member

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    It's a sad time when a marriage breaks down, especially where kids are involved.
    When I lived in Donny, the wife of my best mate left him taking their young son
    with her. He phoned me to let me know and intimated that he was going to do something
    to end his pain. I discussed it with my wife and we invited him for tea, telling him to bring
    an overnight bag with him. He came and I took him for a pint. He poured all his troubles out.
    He confided that to tell the honest truth, he'd been neglecting his wife and going out with his mates
    a lot boozing, but what hurt was the rejection and the fact he wouldn't see his lad everyday.
    He stayed overnight with us and by talking things through, he sensibly decided to carry on.
    Six or seven months later, he met a smashing lass and is still very happy. His wife's new partner
    cheated on her and she ended up leaving him. She started another relationship where my mates son
    and the new bloke didn't get on. My mates lad has gone back to live with him and his new partner
    and last I heard, his wife was living alone in a bed sit in Donny.
    So that little story shows that at the time it happens, things look extremely bleak. I hope our fellow
    fan Norfolk can work through his difficulties. As some have already said, he has his daughter and he
    has a life. Here's hoping everything goes OK for him in the future.
     
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    You can never, ever see what's around the corner. If things seem like they can't get any worse there's always a good possibility they can get better and often from the most unlikely sources.
    Stick in there and wait for things to turn around.
     
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    North Yorks Red Well-Known Member

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    Anybody heard owt from Norfolk lately ?
     

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