A multipack of durex, nowt much else needed for a honeymoon. Could save em a tidy wedge further darnt line.
Credit where credit's due, mate, as they've deliberately chosen a Monday for the day of the wedding just so I don't need to miss a match.
That made me chuckle. At our wedding, a local mate with a very strong Geordie accent filed past with other guests, to wish my wife and myself all the best and shook our hands before we left for our honeymoon. He looked at me and gave me some valuable advice with a very pronounced wink. When we had finally settled in to our hotel room, my wife asked me " why did Mr Quinn tell you to make sure you brought plenty of fresh lettuce with you."? I have to admit, he was normally very difficult to understand but even I knew he had said " French letters." Bit like Camilla when she wed Charles. They asked her if she would like the Bridal Suite and she replied, " no it's OK, I'll hang on to his ears."
I didn't mention gifts at all on the invite to mine. If anyone asked then I told them that they didn't have to get us anything but that if they insisted on giving us something then we weren't picky. In the end we got a few presents but most people bunged cash in a card, which I think suited all parties really.
I tend to go down the ‘how much do you think they spent on you e.g. food/drinks etc.’ route if asked for cash. Or ‘how much would it cost me to have a 3 course meal, possibly a buffet evening meal plus X amount of drinks’. I hate going to a wedding that doesn’t have a list as I don’t know what to get and massively overthink it. With a list I know 100% that the money hasn’t been wasted and that they will enjoy what I’ve got them and I like that every time they use it they may think of the person who got them it/their wedding day.
Unless they're close family I'd say £100. Right, Victor Meldrew time. Weddings these days seem to have gone nuts and are like a competition as to who has the best sweet stall/balloon maker/ gift packs etc etc. If someone is daft enough to pay £20k for a wedding they cant afford I think it's way out of line to expect their guests to pay through the nose to recoup the costs for them. Best part of getting married for me was having family and friends around me for the day. It could have been in a field for all the trimmings mattered.
I know a couple who borrowed £30k for a wedding several years ago. They're still paying it off, despite the fact that they are now divorced. Senseless. And for what it's worth I think £50 is fine as a cash gift for a wedding.
My eldest gets married the day we play Leeds at home, in September. Apparently, and rather selfishly, she can't change the date. And, also, giving her away, by text message from Oakwell, is also unacceptable. First time I have ever prayed for Sky to intervene. And, failing that, it would be terrible if the game was postponed due to Leeds' captain getting kidnapped (by a bloke dressed like he was on his way to a wedding)...wouldn't it??
Thanks for the replies all. For the record my own Wedding was planned around the fixture list, as it should be. Fortunately, this couple have picked the November International break, so no games missed there. Must admit I'm not a fan of the “competitive” wedding thing. When i look back, what we paid for cars was scandalous, considering I’d have been fine in any old car. Aside from that though, we did try to keep a lid on things. The couple are in laws side. We don't see much of them these days but will certainly be contributing on behalf of four of us.