Can’t find an answer anywhere - are we allowed to visit care homes?

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    Been prohibited since Christmas due to internal isolating. Another 6 weeks would be extremely damaging. :-(
     
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    you can stand outside and wave or if you are lucky sit within the same ten metres of each other surrounded by some flimsy "covid secure" ( what an awful pointless scaremongering phrase) plastic.
     
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    The home where my wife is use an appointment only system, and then we are parted by a screen with elongated gloves through the partition, we find it extremely upsetting and rather ineffective to be honest.
     
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    Sorry to hear this and you have my total sympathies, it sounds horrific. In the rush to provide a practical response to this pandemic I believe we have In some cases totally disregarded the human and compassionate side of things. I have no answers, or can even begin to offer an alternative, but this seems so wrong. Again, heartfelt sympathies and I really hope we can get back to some semblance of normality for yourself and the countless people in similar situations.
     
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    My mum is in a nursing home with a large number of mental and physical medical issues and is virtually bed bound,up until this started March/April of last year I would visit 3 times a week.Since first lockdown I’ve seen her 3 times it’s heartbreaking.
     
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    That sounds very much like what I’ve experienced, although I am visiting an elderly relative who wouldn’t do hugs/ kisses normally. Biggest difficulty is that she is deaf so the intercom doesn’t help. The only way for me to communicate is to write on a board.
    Last time I visited she felt abandoned. I haven’t been allowed to go since. I can’t phone because she can’t hear. It’s not s good situation.
     
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    I worked in one for 4-5 months thro first lockdown as a handyman.

    The only visitors were allowed to sit outside the garden gate. Had to wear a mask and a 5 metre distance. All presents brought were wiped down aswell. Aswell the residents also sit in the front conservatory after breakfast. Family could come into the front garden and wave and try and communicate best they could. It's still the same 4-5 months later.

    My Dad is in another. Xmas day had to get a 30 min 'slot' by appointment and had to stand in car park looking thro consevatory window watching him open presents. It's not ideal but wholely essential.
     
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    I didn't see my wife between lockdown in March and her being admitted to hospital in September. Thankfully the hospital was far more accommodating than the Care Home, and my close family and I were able to spend plenty of precious time with her in the few days before she slipped away (not from Covid).
     
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    Absolutely heartbreaking I haven't been able to see my mum since October ,missed her birthday for the first time ever and Christmas too .
     
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    Forgive me for making light of it but it conjured up an image from one of those documentaries on Porton down or a scene from an 'apocalyptic sci-fi films with scientists in full PPE working with rubber gloves handling deadly chemicals or bacteria
     
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    I went this morning to see my father in Riverside at Monk Bretton as I go every Tuesday and Friday morning's and was told I could not see him because of the new lockdown.
     
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    You are forgiven, that's exactly what we thought, it was thoroughly depressing.
     
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