Stay together for the kid or call it a day, have some short term pain and learn to become a McDonalds Dad?
You and the others involved only have one life to try to enjoy. You'll enjoy it more if you remove the source of the pain, even though it hurts even more while you're removing it. They will enjoy their lives more too, once the pain of removal has subsided. That's my advice, good luck to all involved.
Give it every chance to work things out - even if you needs to involve professionals to help. If things still don't improve then walk away with a clean conscience but don't just drop your responsibilities towards any kids.
Go on the attack and take the kids with you. Dont' simply accept the rife anti male sexism- you can beat the system - build a better life for you AND the kids.
Just going throught it myself mate, me and the Mrs have called it a day( her decision more than mine ) after 17 years, no one else is involved, we are still on good terms and I'm determined to keep it that way for sake of our two boys.I have kept the house and she has found somewhere nearby, it's ******* hard mate and I'm still trying to get my napper round it all but if one or both of you ain't happy and you are both are honest and upfront with one another you can both make the best of a bad job but this is from the point of view of someone who's split with no third party involved , different kettle of fish if one of you has been playing away, anyway best of luck mate, hope you can get it sorted with minimum amount pain for all sides involved, sithi
Have a temporary break. You might find when you're apart that the good parts of the relationship outweigh the bad parts.
I was a Burger King dad - times were hard and Burger King did more money off vouchers. For me it was the best thing I ever did. I don't think it was for my kids, to my eternal regret. Think very hard before you decide.
i wish it was that easy ...trust me you cant beat the system ..Ive eaten the pie got the tshirt ...lost the daughter due to the system ,,, still reaping the wrath of a vindictive mother. who created the problem in the first instance....and who knows no reasoning and goes out of her way to be a bitch with her selfish attitude Result father and daughter 1,000 of miles apart. different countries...heartache galore Word of warning in my opinion dont use Mills Kemp and Brown....
My/our divorce came through at the end of last year and the marriage lasted just over 5 years. We used 'Quickie Divorce' actually, it was all done online and neither of us had to goto court or anything. Thankfully there were no kids to be dragged into it all (which might have been part of the problem in the first place actually), and there was nobody else involved either. It was just mutual for us both and as other people on here have said its hard at first but it is the best thing not to prolong it, if theres no feeling anymore on one or both sides.
Me and my second missus shared a Jack Russell terrier for 5 years after we split. Sadly she (Fuzzy the Jack Russell), passed away. My ex has remarried but we are looking at another dog share. In other words, you can have a good ongoing relationship. (My first wife is a crack whore from hell btw,)
A mate of mine's going through something similar he's adamant she's having an affair but she told me in feather this morning it's all nonsense
[QUOTE="shed131, post: 2008072, member: 7343" Word of warning in my opinion dont use Mills Kemp and Brown....[/QUOTE] Agreed
Been through it but wouldn't dream of giving advice on what to do regarding such a decision as each case is different and as I don't know you or the situation you find yourself in. But the advice I will give to anyone is don't allow the situation to turn you bitter,twisted and hateful .