Windass

http://www1.skysports.com/football/news/11714/7432779/Windass-reveals-suicide-bid

 

Extremely sad news

Hopefully, Dean will get the help he so obviously needs. Good luck to him him and his family .

 

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Just going through this kinda thing myself - it's been a long twelve months and I've still got Councelling to come. It does take over your life and makes you feel worthless. I didn't get to this stage but I can see how people can feel this way. It's affected me on and off for 20 years - wouldn't wish it on anyone. There's no quick fix - just time and support. Good luck dean

 

I'm so sorry to hear of your problems, mate

You can always post abuse towards this miserable, old git any time you like if it'll help.
Problems like yours and Dean's certainly put last night's debates in a proper perspective.
All the best, buddy.
Kev

 

Brave, brave man speaking out so quickly. Hopefully anyone else in a similar position to him will take some comfort from realising they're far from alone.

Not sure if it's the PFA's role, but it does seem that these guys need a bit more help when they pack in.

 

Thanks mate - appreciate it

 

Seriously mate like kev said if your ever feeling a bit down and need someone to have a chin wag to or just generally vent your spleen you can always pm me, I've had family members with similar issues,

 

Thanks - a lot of people don't understand it - I think you need to experience it or know someone who has to fully appreciate the problems it causes

 

I agree mate, my nephew found it easier to talk to a complete stranger than his own family members which his mum and dad found hard to take at first.

 

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Sorry to hear you have been suffering like this for so long. Depression is a terrible illness, i really hope you get all the help you need from the health service. Keep fighting it mate, with the right help you will defeat it or at least learn how to manage it

 

A colleage of mine hung himself last month. Always had a smile on his face but was clearly in a dark place.
You just wish he had opened up and seeked help.

 

Males just don't do that manilto.
i don't think it's in our nature to do so.
Also all the best of liverpoolred.

 

Cheers everyone - I went for help straightaway which got me through the worst of it - still receive Councelling but it's a long wait

 

It's not just men who have problems admitting to depression or mental health issues as unfortunately there are still ignorant people out there who make it hard for people to admit what they're going through. You know what i mean the pull yourself together brigade or he/she needs a kick up the backside. People who think like that make it hard for some people to admit they have a problem

 

Ok.
i meant that males don't normally tell there friends anything bad. It's all jokes and banter really.

women from a male point of view seem to tell there friends much more and even tell them problems.

 

I get what you're saying, but sometimes no matter what sex you are it's hard for some people to admit to having problems like this as they may think it's a sign of weakness due to the stigma some people attach to depression.

 

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Liverpool Red, good luck with the councilling, my problems came to a head 9 years ago, took me a while to get help, I was lucky that my doc got me onto medication early, I was dubious about taking tablets but he was quite hard with me and basicaly said ''do want me to help you or not '', he said there is no shame in what you are going through or taking medication to help you, so I started taking SSRI's, and thank god they work. The funny thing is that apart from from my wife, very few people realised there was something wrong, I still managed to look like the usual me on the outside but was in absolute turmoil inside. I have tried to come off the tablets twice, once managed 3 months but eventually the black dogs started to come back but by this time I knew the signs and went back for some tablets, the doc said once again there is no shame in taking medication and that I must realise that I could be on it for life and to stop trying to fight it. LR, I dont know if you are on medication or not, it's not for me to advise anyone on things like that, but what I can say is that it can be overcome, just hang in there mate, I feel for you, it's only lately that I have started to tell people of my problem and a lot of my friends are astonished saying that I was the last person they would have thought that would suffer from depression, just goes to show dunt it. Like I said, hang in there, let your friends know, talk about it openly, like my doc said it's nothing to be ashamed of. Good luck mate.

 

Really struggling with this .... met him a few times round Bradford over the years but spent an hour or so with him a couple of seasons ago. Think I posted it on the old forum but my lad (10 at time) was playing against his lads team. It was the day after Hull had played Man U at Old Trafford, yet he was here in Bingley on a Sunday morning in his wellies watching the Under 10's. My lad scored a corker, which drew a round of applause led by Dean; his lad scored about 4 - he was superb and I remember telling you all to watch out for Jordan in years to come. Dean was just football, football, football. I could never have envisaged this.
However, we can never know what is going on in somebody's head. I know this only too well as somebody very close to me (possibly the closest relative one can have ?) tried to end it two weeks ago. I have spent a fortnight treading eggshells. On top of what happened to my nephew in November it's not been an easy few months but we can only guess at how dark people can actually feel when they reach that point.

 

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Well done for coming on here and having the guts to talk about it. It's a terrible illness made even worse by the "pull yourself together" brigade, as Kanecat says.

The very best of luck to you as you battle it. Like others have said, if you ever need a stranger to vent at, I'm sure there's several on here who would give up some of their time. I certainly would.

All the best to you.

 

was my mates next door neighbor in Baildon absolutely sound bloke, one of the nicest chaps i have ever met,
rough as abadgers arse mind ya