Sensible advice needed.

At the weekend, my fiance had a private, topless dance at a strip club on his stag do. I knew in my head that it was a possibility and was completely fine with it, but for some reason I now can't get it out of my head. I don't understand why it has bothered me so much, I know it is completely irrational of me to mind, but out of nowhere it keeps popping into my head. How do I just forget about it and move on?

 

Go for one yourself, then you'll see what types of tramps do the dancing...

 

As long as you don't smell of out of date fish, your breath doesn't smell and your 'alright' looking, there is nothing to worry about.

 

Haha, I was just thinking that the word 'sensible' was being applied loosely here. I knew I could count on this forum to make me laugh though.

 

In my experience of stag do's it's rarely an optional thing for the stag. All his mates will have chipped in for a dance, and there's no way he can turn it down without having a much worse forefeit. Look on the bright side, if you know about it then he's a keeper - if he'd come back from his stag do and said nothing untoward had happened you should be far more worried.

The best thing you could do is pay for the female equivalent and see how awkward you feel whilst they dance around you. Then you'll understand why it's nothing to worry about.

 

Cheers JDB. I know I would be mortified if I would have had a guy do the same for me. The niggling thing in my mind is because I'm the only person he's been with. I'm not stupid, I know he's seen tits online before, but it's different knowing a real life girl has been rubbing them in his face. I guess I should be pleased for him really!

 

Nah, I just feel sorry for her!

 

It really is nothing to worry about, I'd like to bet he would be dying of embarrassment inside but seeing as his mates will have sorted it for him he wouldn't have been able to get out of it, trust me no matter how blokes talk the majority of us hate the thought of been dragged up but the likes of strippers or lap dancers, don't forget it's just a job to her plus don't forget he's felt comfortable enough to tell you, please don't let it play on your mind and have a lovely wedding.

 

That weren't a woman, that was the drag act

 

If he was that bothered he wouldn't be getting married.

I can safely say that there is nothing sexy/attractive about strippers in real life. And it doesn't matter how pissed you are either. The only people who think strippers are great are blokes who can't pull a bird and they end up thinking the stripper is actually friends with them. Sad *******s.

 

he probably saw more and better jiggly-bobblies walking around tarn than some old tart flopping stretchmark covered spanials ear'oles in his face, which he probably only did so he didn't look a tool infront of his mates

 

You sound like my ex girlfriend

How to forget about it? stop nagging him about it, its standard procedure for a stag do.

How to move on? have sexual intercourse with Jean-Yves M'Vito and Ben Ainwick, at the same time, fiance watching.

 

I haven't brought it up with him, I suggested it to his mates in the first place. I know it's standard procedure, I don't mind that it happened, it just kept popping unannounced into my head. I know better than to make him feel bad about it. The above responses have made me see the funny side of it again anyway.

 

Oi, don't blow my cover!!!


Are you sure you posted this in the right column, JamDrop old flower?? Thing is, he probably had very little choice in the matter so it's nothing he's willingly participated in. Unlike some, I could cause some right damage with the information I carry around with me.

 

Bloody hell go watch a porno together and chill art.
Whats he actually done wrong?

 

I don't really mind if he did have a choice, I don't begrudge him it, or judge him in anyway for it. I just wanted big tits to stop appearing in my mind at random.

 

He hasn't done anything wrong. I just wanted didn't want to keep seeing a naked woman every so often in my head.

Edit: I'm starting to realise it looks like I'm pining after a naked woman of my own, maybe I should take Gordon's advice.