Just seen pictures on Facebook from the wedding.....

Gally is punching well above his weight isn't he?

Congratulations fella, hope you both had a brilliant day.

 

He hasn't done bad as he. The lucky b'stard.

Congratulations both.

 

It always amazes me that people think it's acceptable to say that. Yeah say she's a looker (which she most certainly is), but don't put the guy down whilst you're doing it.

 

We're having a joke with him. You wouldn't say such a thing to someone you didn't like or aren't friends with, it'd be rude. But to someone you know it's acceptable. The majority of us men aren't concerned with how we look, so to take the piss in this area isn't considered offensive.

 

I suppose I'd have to be a man to know. I knew you were obviously having a laugh and are mates with him/feel you know him well enough. I do wonder though if most men laugh because they feel they have to, but do actually feel a bit down about it.

 

Gally's a big pal, but I'd never say such stuff. My Mam's not well, otherwise I'd be up there now tearing a strip!!

 

I can only speak for myself, but if a friend was taking the piss out of my appearance, I would definitely take it as a joke. I don't know Gally well enough to call him a friend, but I've known him long enough for him to know I respect him.

It's taken as read that when your mates have a child, you say how bonny they are and that they must have got their looks from their mother. To which the father always laughs and says they're pleased that's the case. And when your mates get married you always say how well they've done for themselves or that they're batting above average or whatever phrase you choose to use. It's a way of complimenting their partner without coming across as leering. You can't say, "Christ, your lass is a bit of alright, I wouldn't mind giving her one." It's inappropriate. But the way we all do it compliments the woman and also says 'you must be a decent bloke because such a beautiful woman wants to be with you." It's a back handed compliment, it's very back handed, I know, but it works for us and everybody seems to be happy with it. It's a weird game we all play, but the intention certainly isn't to offend.

What we wouldn't do, under any circumstances, because we like our balls right where they are, is say such a thing to a woman.

 

There are ways of saying stuff. Dreamboy was out of order that time, I think we both had a go at him over it.

 

However having seen jamdrops bloke I'd like to point out that she is punching well above her weight

Sorry Jamdrop I'm only kidding, I can't remember what he looked like at all, though I do remember you looked beautiful in your wedding dress

 

Cheers SuperTyke, always knew I could rely on you

 

Hope your mams ok Mr C. Did you ever manage to sort her fence out?

 

I can't remember what he said, although he's never struck me as someone who is very tactful so I'm not surprised.

If I've offended Gally then I apologise. I'm not just saying that, I truly would be sorry and I'll apologise to him personally. But I don't believe I will have done. I like him, I think he's a good man, I wish him nothing but happiness and I think he knows that is the case.

 

Thanks. She's in better shape than the fence!!

 

pmsl thanks for that, Ive just sent a box of maltesers flying across the room when I laughed a little too much at that

 

I wouldn't want to let you down would I

 

I wasn't really meaning you Jay; you more said that he was lucky which I took as saying that she's so nice. It was the punching comment that bothered me (not that it matters, I'm sure it doesn't bother Gally). It was just me musing out loud if you like. I know Will doesn't really like it. He's fine when a mate jokes about it, but he's had random people come up to him in the street and say it, and that's out of order. An old man stood at the top of an escalator in Debenhams the other day, waiting for us to get to the top, just so that he could say it.

 

Anyway, sorry Gally, my comments have probably bothered you more than the banter. I hope you both had a brilliant day and have a long and happy life together

 

I think you'll be okay. I just think it's a shame this will be the first thread he sees about his wedding. Banter was one thing, now we've had a serious debate too, which is sort of worse.

I hear the same all the time. I just get Mrs C to smack 'em. You don't play international netball without knowing how to throw a punch.

 

Are your hormones playing up Jay? I'm pretty sure Gally (or any other bloke) wouldn't take offence at what you (and actually at the start, me) has said, you're going way over the top trying to explain wht what you've said isn't offensive.