Exactly. Political Parties have been doing this for years. Just another nail in the "we'll do what we want" football coffin. The FA appear to be no better than UEFA or FIFA, just different degrees of getting away with whatever they want.
An interesting thread with a range of discussion points. Find it hard to believe that Aluko is a "troublemaker". How many times has she played for England? Whether there was any racial element to the complaint is irrelevant unless you know who is telling the truth so it becomes a matter of incompetency by the FA. It's obvious they cocked up two unvestigations by not interviewing everyone involved. More generally I have very specific views on people in a position of responsibility having relationships with those that they have responsibility over. It would be an immediate sacking offence in my eyes. Massive breach of trust in a work environment. Not an issue of consent or the longevity of the relationship. It's abuse of authority.
I dont agree - many people meet their husbands / wives / long term partners at work . Sometimes they are just colleagues but frequently one is senior to the other, in fact the last office I worked in the senior manager and receptionist/PA (who really ran the office) shacked up together and now have a kid and seem very happy with each other. I can see that there can be problems if someone is using either their boss or underling for nefarious reasons but far more often there is a genuine attraction and between consenting adults I really cant see an issue
I don't doubt that many long term successful relationships start out in this way but in terms of the workplace I just think it's a no go area. If I owned that firm I'd wish them well together working somewhere else.
Possibly, unless I'd managed to get a clause in all contracts. Don't really know about that but it's not really relevant to my point as It's just something I don't think should be contemplated by someone who has responsibility for another in the workplace.
Different issue but sort of relevant. At my last place the deputy head had an affair with (and married) the lass in the office. He later became temporary head and she got a nice promotion to school business manager with a whole load of power and pay to go with it.
As I mentioned above i met my Mrs at work and I was her direct manager. Eleven years, three kids and a seven year marriage later I think we are ok. We don’t work together anymore. We both moved on. But we weren’t the only relationship in that workplace, and there have been plenty since as well as before. Other marriages and kids too. I think most workplaces have relationships and folk ‘at it’ in most industries and situations. I can see what they are saying regarding him being a coach - I suppose it’s slightly different, but it’s not a sacking offence years later when the new employer knew about it all along. Unless it’s convenient to the employer.
Cheers troff. Brilliant that you have a great marriage - always worth celebrating. I'm not looking at it from a personal point of view though. Just what I think is acceptable to me at work.
But would he also be asked to leave the next school he worked in because he had a relationship with a co worker in a previous school?