A lot of his responses looked like childish retaliations on second viewing. I can't really say owt though because I pulled his leg with a couple of posts with the gimp mask and asking if he was Young Nudger.
I agree we have a duty of care; but how far should we let posters go? Do we let anyone post anything they like and let it go unchallenged just in case we hurt someone’s feelings? If I were an admin, I’d have deleted that thread yesterday when it was obvious the lad was posting stuff he ought to regret. But it’s not my site, and most of my notifications of threads I feel need moderating go ignored
I totally get that Stephen. Lots of us try diffuse a situation with humour. But when it’s blind v blind. Nowt will change. Just antagonism.
When it is blatantly obvious someone is either on the wind up or just not showing any empathy to other posters then in my opinion they can't go crying if they end up getting strong words back and pushing people's buttons on such an emotive subject. I make no secret of what I do for a living on here and take wellbeing seriously, which is why I asked him to pack it in on more than one occasion given the upset it was causing others.
Agreed hooky but there was nothing taken out of context in this instance. Like I said I eventually told him this morning that I was no longer going to engage. I have about five or six people on permanent ignore because I got tired of the constant recurring arguments but there are times when things are said on here that need to be challenged. Someone trying to convince others that masks are useless and that the risk of covid should be ignored is one of them.
Didn't you get the impression he was just digging and digging though. I agree with Donny. The thread should have been closed down when it got petulant on his part. and stirred up the emotions felt by Fonzie. To be honest I'd like to hear what Sunlighter has to say for himself now.
No i got the impression he was having fun winding others up knowing that people would get annoyed about it. I believe he has those views though. He could've chosen to ignore Fonzie's reply if he didn't have anything nice to say back about his dad but chose to reply with sarcasm instead- granted Fonzie was abusive as he was clearly upset about his dad (totally justified IMO). Anyone with half a brain could see he was upset.
I make no secret of what I do for a living on here and take wellbeing seriously, which is why I asked him to pack it in on more than one occasion given the upset it was causing others.[/QUOTE] The OP of this thread simply posted he was leaving. What do you say to those who posted messages which he may feel were mocking him - see #10.
I'd say perhaps don't intentionally wind others up on emotive subjects then you might get a more sympathetic response.
I would say that if you're going to leave, leave. If you feel you're being bullied in a certain situation that is easily escaped from, remove yourself until you've had time to reflect. Then make a decision of whether to put yourself back into a group of people who have a significantly different world view than you. You could decide to come back and only post in football threads, or you could accept that your actions were the reason everyone jumped down your throat and apologise.
Used to have a drink there from time to time when the weather was decent . Oh sorry thought you said Flouch
Spot on mate. But I’d have done things differently Either just leave for a while and come back when ready.( or never which is sad) But you’d have to rely on other posters not jumping on your every word. Or pm’d admin. It’s as obvious, as the nose on the end of your face that some would jump all over a public message. Doesn’t excuse it. But it’s going to happen. It needs a strong backbone to put up with that. Not everyone has one.
Because A) I don't believe there was any bullying, just a robust discussion around why his opinion was insensitive and wrong. B) He wasn't a victim. He was a two-hat/wind-up merchant of the highest order.