I'd like to close my account...

Take some time off SD, you'll feel better for it. I don't think Mansfield Red meant his post how you took it (quite the opposite from what I saw like), but I've taken posts to heart in the past, and the best thing I did was take a couple of years off.

I was struggling with my mental health, and I mentioned as much on here. Barnsley weren't doing well then, and that further affected my mood. One particular poster on here ridiculed me for feeling such a way, and although everyone else was great, I took it very much to heart. A couple of weeks later, I decided that being on here was contributing to my anxiety and I left for 2 years. The break did me good, and now I'm in a better place, I can take the flack a bit better. Its only a game at the end of the day.

 

I’ve given you one as well !

Ooops

 

I won't apologise because there's nothing to apologise for. He was saying that "Hillsborough and other hooligan related events" doesn't imply any link and Martin Tyler had nothing to apologise for. So I queried whether, hypothetically speaking, if someone referred to "him and other sex offenders" he would be fine with it. I then went on to say that as with the Hillsborough comment it might imply a link when there clearly isn't one there.

I specifically said he's NOT a sex offender, but he's apparently intent on making something out of it in multiple threads despite it being completely obvious to anyone with any sense that I never actually suggested it.

If there were ambiguity or room for misinterpretation then I would happily apologise, but there isn't. Plus he seems intent on trying to manufacture a narrative that I've somehow libelled him.

 

I find what he's doing extremely distasteful. I also find the post by Red-Taff to be in the same vein.

 

Very recently i was affected similarly and took 3 weeks off.

Helped me.

Also had some posters reach out and got in touch.

 

Keep smiling, S,D, x

 

By "he" do you mean SD?

 

MR - why on earth did you bring the term 'sex-offender' into this thread - surely an unnecessary choice of words choice of words?

 

What on earth are you on about? I didn't bring it up in this thread

 

Perhaps sorry if I gave the wrong impression and caused you some distress would not be too hard?

 

For what it's worth, i hope you stick around SD. You would never intentionally offend every ST holder, and i hope you realise that what Mansfield said (though a poor example to use in my opinion), was an example of how completely unrelated things unfortunately get related, and the impact it can have on that individual. Unfortunately it's been taken the wrong way and had an adverse effect on you (and to a degree i get it, but i also understand what Mansfield meant).

You're one of my favourite posters, funny, entertaining, and honest. Hope you stick around mate.

 

No chance at this point.

No reasonable reader would ever conclude that I was labelling him a sex offender. I'm not going to apologise just because he has started deliberately misrepresenting my post by quoting elements out of context and bringing it up in multiple threads.

 

I know Loko has said they always have, which is fair enough.

But even if they didn’t previously they would have to now under GDPR.

 

Ahhh, reight. Cheers.

 

Hmm nice.

 

I think you're nice..

 

Great post & great advice. It may not take everyone two years, might be two days, 2 weeks, 2 months, whatever it takes.

I've taken time out from the BBS at times & some Whatsapp groups I'm in. I always end up rejoining, but only when I'm mentally ready.

 

I found that because I was in a dark place mentally, I probably wasn't the best person on here either.

I was creating posts primarily to vent and antagonise, and that's not who I am. I hate confrontation. And so I thought a break would do me good. It did, and to be honest, I didn't miss the forum whilst I was off it. I did become more active on twitter, but over time I realised that was even more destructive and I came off that too. I dip in and out of that now to follow Hallam FC more than anything, but I don't have an account any more.

I find social media as a whole quite destructive. I'm signed into both my Facebook and Instagram accounts, but I don't post on them any more, and very rarely browse them. I feel that with Facebook, you get the worst side of people you know. Twitter, the worst side of people you don't know. And on Instagram, you get the side of people you know and don't know, that they want you to see, which often makes you question your own existence. I find it more harmful than not.

With here, you're with (mainly) like minded people who all have a common interest. There's a certain comfort in that.

 

I don't touch Twitter, but have to do FB & Insta for my business.

I'm 57 & social media is a bit of a minefield at times. Younger people that grow up with it have a better angle than I have.

 

Agree with you Mr Archey. Social media, for so many reasons, is destroying us all whether we’re on it or not.

And never forget – everything you see on a screen is fake. I’m not really a cat for instance.