NOT dealing with captivity

This staying in the house is hitting me very very hard.
Fortunately I had a couple of years of trying to get used to it when I stepped back from my involvement at work - but stepping back only resulted in many visits to the doctors.
I’m a person that has rarely spent any time in the house.
Even as a kid we didn’t spend time in the house.
The house was where you slept and ate and that was about it.
We didn’t have things like a piano or any musical instruments - we didn’t even have any books to read - so all my younger years was spent on the street causing mischief - playing games - fighting - playing football - playing cheeky (my personal favourite) and generally roaming about in the fields.
So this self confinement might be a time for a period of reflection and relaxation for some.
For me - I’m roaming from room to room like a demented caged bear.

 

This last 3 week has made me realise how much I enjoy been outdoors and I’ve been on for a walk or on my bike daily, I’ve selected where I go and what times to keep social distancing as high as possible but I’ve also been happy to sit in garden with radio on chilling out too.

A suppose we’re all different and no one can really offer ‘what’s best’ as like a say we all differ in character, at the start of it I write a list of jobs to do and some days I’ll pick one then other days I’ll sit back and chill, I’ve exercised every day and that alone makes me appreciate sitting back for an hour to unwind.

This **** storm will pass as everything generally does, you’ve got to hope you and yours (without sounding selfish) can come out unscathed.

Stay active and stay safe mate!

Judith

 

I’m missing work summat chronic don’t know how them on long term dole do it

 

I have literally made a three day decorating job last for three furloughed weeks by taking it very steady, being very, very thorough and having music for company.
But, I am running out of stuff to do, and it will be finished today at which point I will be in the same boat as Nudger as I am not one for lounging around the house.
The bike has been a God send but an hour isn’t much use. It gets me from Ardsley to Worsborough Res and back, then kicking my heels again!!!
All I can really say is, we really ARE all in this together mate.

 

I’m fortunately still able to go to work and have a partner and newborn at home but even then I’m still finding it hard to deal with the depressive nature of all this. Anybody off work, living alone has my full respect (if they are holding things together and not breaking the guidelines)

 

It's difficult to adjust to a way of life you're not accustomed to, especially when it is forced upon you. Luckily it won't be permanent. Perhaps try to see it as an opportunity to explore new interests that you can do indoors such as new projects, a new hobby etc.

Think about what things you value and how you could meet those values by other means. If your passion is nature then maybe have a crack at drawing it etc... it doesn't have to be a masterpiece.

 

It's really fking hard no matter what anyone says. I'm desperately missing being able to get out of the bit of the city I'm in, missing seeing family and friends, missing the pubs and restaurants and cafes, missing going to nature reserves and country houses, and dare I say it missing football despite the state of us this season. I'm even missing getting up early to go to the gym, then my 45 minute commute on the train and a stuffy office.

It's ****. But it's going to be worth it. All those who have died trying to keep the country going, don't let it be in vain. This won't be forever.

 

It helps when you can get out and about as and when you desire

 

I've transferred all my work online very easily, but for some reason running Zoom courses rather than teaching people face-to-face is far more tiring, despite the fact that previously I had a lot of travelling time in between clients, which was mostly spent behind the wheel. That time is now spent mostly cooking. I'm definitely eating really well, as everything is now fresh and home cooked, whereas before it was a mixture of homemade stuff (good) and snacks picked up while on the run (much less good). Spending a lot more time with the family as well, which is great. So for me it's swings and roundabouts so far. The weekends are hard though. No footy, no prospect of a night out. There's been a lot of boozing with the missus and boozing with mates on Zoom!

 

Spot on, only work part time now but realising the amount of time spent with friends out walking or in the countryside visiting country houses and Peaks or Dales. Calling at Strafford or Spencers, watching cricket at Cawthorne and Obviously Chennels on match day.....maybe well all appreciate this stuff more in the years that follow the
sh*testorm ..am sure we will...stay safe all

 

The thing is when you are feeling **** just think about all those people who are alot worse off. I was also a child in the 50s and we never saw the inside of the house till bedtime.Then like most people in the 70s 80s 90s and beyond socailising was one of the main pastimes. B.F.C. home and away for god knows how many years.So as long as my family are safe and ive a garden to sit in i wll not moan and class myself as fortunate. Take care everybody.

 

Three weeks? You were lucky (tribute to Tim Brook-Taylor).

I've been stuck at home since 12th January when I fell off my bike whilst cycling home from work. I was just starting to get out and about and back on my bike when the lockdown started (sick note ran out on 30th March). I've had ample time to get used to it. I've been cycling almost every day and I guess pushing the limits a bit, sometimes riding for several hours (avoiding towns and urban areas as much as possible of course).

 

Appreciate you didn't mean it in a bad way but this kind of thinking isn't helpful.

The amount of clients I see for therapy that say, "I shouldn't feel like this... there are people dying of cancer/ starving in Africa" etc etc... it just makes people feel bad for feeling that way and it is counter-productive. Taking some comfort in others having it worse isn't healthy either.

It is perfectly normal to feel depressed/ anxious and everyone is entitled to feel that way. Just because somebody might have it worse it doesn't mean we shouldn't feel bad.

 

I was referring to those who were fed up of not being able to get out not those who have mental health issues.

 

Makes no difference.

 

I think you have the right to feel the way you feel but at some point you need to appreciate what you do have. And everybody does have something good in their lives. And definitely go outside for your daily exercise.

 

Yep, there's nothing wrong with that.

 

Enjoy the little things in life, cos thar'll be realising bi nar how much we take for granted, i'm realising how important just going to shop is, theres a lot of **** going on behind closed doors, STAY SAFE. all of ya.

 

Sorry to hear that you are feeling low Young Nudger. Good that you can open up about it
instead of bottling it up. As Titus Magee says, this could be the time to take up a new project.
You are very heavily into nature. Have you ever thought of writing a little book or a guide for
beginners.?