have you changed your personality?

The Austrian psychoanalyst Sigmund Freud suggested that personality was largely set in stone by the tender age of 5

I from a child have always been someone who overthinks things and is too sensitive,just wondered how you have grown through your life,wish I had a more "not give a ****",way of being but think its too late now to change, have any of my fellow BBS crew, changed or do you think you are what you are and that's it

 

I can't remember what I was like at age 5. Apparently I was quite happy. I think as I've got older I have changed in some ways, surely we all do?

 

I've turned into my dad so I'm told.....
Lol
but then again some tell me I'm just a grumpy old barsteward so I don't know who to believe lol...

 

I started out as a bit of a *******, then later turned into a miserable *******, before finally ending up as a grumpy, miserable old *******.

But that's only when I have to do any DIY. The rest of the time I'm quite pleasant.

 

Used to worry what everyone else thought about me
Now couldn't give a flying ****

 

I think that's quite common as you get older, teenage years are a n ever ending wave of feeling embarassed!

 

Slowed down a lot as I was always on the go..although I'm playing tennis regularly again! When I was a young un, up to about 12 I was sensitive. Then things changed. Lost mi cherry, discovered alcohol and was out the house at 16 years old.
Er indoors thinks I'm quite brash! I don't let anything affect me these days. So, yes...a definite change

 

I don't think so, I may have mellowed in some areas and become less tolerant in others, but I'm basically still the same person I was 50 years ago.

 

Honestly don't think I've changed. I still act like a five year old.

 

I keep waiting to be grown up, like my dad,maybe if I wore a shirt trousers, socks and shoes like he did on the beach,it might help,it wasn't till the Wednesday of our week away he took his tie off

 

I have spent a year working on why I drank so much, I've been working on the root causes and changing my perspectives on many levels internally - I've learned to disassociate me from the internal monologue we all have, and turned it into a kinder person rather then the harsh critic it always used to be. I've stopped worrying so much about the future, and caring less about what happened in the past - in short, yes you can change yourself, but you have to work at it. My wife and kids tell me I'm a very different person to the one I was a year ago, stopping drinking was definitely part of it, but everything that went with that was even bigger.

 

That's good to know and a great example to your kids.At the end of the day there's only one person that can make the change and that's ourselves!

 

I’m told I have since my brain bleed in 2019. Nothing was worth worrying or stressing about anymore and my wife says I got short tempered, although I hadn’t noticed anything. It’s over two years now and as time has gone on I’m more like the old me. Im back to worrying and being anxious too. The brain is an amazing thing, that’s for sure.

 

And rightly so.

 

I was a very optimistic person, up to the point of being 3-0 up against Ipswich with 5 minutes left.

 

That game haunts me to this day!

 

Bit like me that, I've just picked up a book by Mark Manson.
The Subtle art of not giving a F#ck.
Give it a read.

 

I've definitely fell into a comfort zone and developed a more "alright Jack" attitude as I've got older. I haven't as many principals. Less so since I became a father. Putting food on the table seems to outweigh principals.

It's not that I don't give a f#ck. I just see the futility of it.

 

This. In spades. And mentally I’m far better off for it.

In life there aren’t many constants. Work colleagues, drinking buddies, acquaintances etc. Generally come and go. Some of them are great people that you are really fond of, but ultimately your ‘core’ is made up of relatively few people.

It’s great to be liked by everyone / popular (I assume anyway!!) but it’s merely a cherry on top of life’s cake. If your nearest have your back then the rest is just details.