My Dad's in Hospital...

With Sepsis. I'm conflicted. Laura has had this night out with her mum planned for weeks. She asked how I felt about her going out.

I'm flummoxed to be honest. She's gone out bless her but I can't help but think if it were Barney (her dad) or Jackie(her mum)my evening would be somewhat different.

I hate her for it.

 

No point seething, you need to communicate. Are you wanting to go to the hospital or to have her company?

 

Sorry to hear this Stephen. Hope your dad improves soon.
I wish him well.

 

I wanted her to be with me but dint wanna be a kiljoy.

 

You'll have to make do with us then. Have you had any updates from the hospital?

 

Yeah they're keeping him in for four days and they found it quickly. I've spoke to my mum but she sounds oblivious.

 

That sounds encouraging.

 

I can't lose him yet. I've too much to say to him. I've never told him I love him you know.

 

Never? Remember actions speak louder than words and I'm sure you've shown him you love him over the years.

 

sorry to hear that mate.
If I was you I would take the win ( they found it early) and roll with it regarding your missus, it might grate a bit now but having a Barney with her wouldn’t help your dad and the fall out would just make life generally more misrerable.

 

Mate, you’re breaking my frickin heart here! Fingers crossed and everything else crossed for him, make sure you tell him when you visit.

 

Cheers mate.

 

Cheers. This anger isn't me anyway.

 

Really, really sorry to hear this mate. Truly sending all my love to you and yours.

It's little redemption to how you're feeling right now, but when that time comes for Laura to be in your situation (as it comes to us all), perhaps you both can be comforted knowing she's made an extra night of memories with her mam now. Next time though, just communicate with her. If you need her, let her know that, properly. That's why you have each other. Comfort, love & understanding are all mainstays in relationships, so don't be afraid to express to her that you need it bud

Hope everything turns out well, mate.

 

Sorry to hear about your dad mate and understand your emotions must be all over the place.

For what it’s worth though, don’t be too hard on your lass if you didn’t make it clear to her that you wanted her to stay in and be there for you.

Us blokes can say one thing and expect another sometimes, me included. From what I’ve read of your relationship, you have a good ‘un and it sounds solid and mutually supportive, so just tell her how upset and mixed up you are and I’m sure she’ll be there for you at this rotten time.

Wishing your dad well.

 

Good that they've found it early. Fingers crossed they're on top of it.
But if my kids suddenly started telling me they loved me I'd **** myself!

 

I just hope there isn't a telly on his ward. He hates Leeds.

 

I hope your dad is ok!

I think you're right about it probably being different if it was the other way around and unless it was a super special thing with her mum then she should have cancelled. However, I do think you should have communicated better and whilst I would still bring it up with her at some point to stop it from festering (because it will do), you need to accept that you do share the blame for agreeing to it out loud but wanting her to do something different in secret. Just tell her how you're feeling next time, she might have thought you wanted some space.

 

Cheers. I've come to that conclusion. Last thing I wanna do is lose Laura too. Glad I've taken a breath and it is eating away at me but now int the time. Cheers again.

 

Wasted energy is anger,happy Wife happy life. You need each other more then ever at bad times like this but her not going out isn't going to change owt. You've got each other as soon as she gets home,and she's more then likely been nattering about you and yer Dad,good luck and please tell him yer love him,life is precious, trust me.