Admin-Mental health support suggestion

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  1. Jack Tatty

    Jack Tatty Well-Known Member

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    is it worth having a support forum for anyone with mental health issues?

    The number of posters on here over the last 2 or 3 years who have called out or been referred for help and support is quite a high number.

    One good thing is that people are coming forward and asking for help which is usually the first step for recovery.

    Anyway just a suggestion.
     
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    Julian Broddle's Perm Well-Known Member

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    I think what is most striking, yet reassuring (oddly) is the number of people, just on here, who reach that low point, in life, and find the courage to reach out on here.
    When I say reassuring, by that I mean that the key message is that, when you feel you have hit rock bottom, you are NOT alone.
    Sadly, I offer zero advice or words of wisdom on any of these threads. All I get is a heap of satisfaction from reading posts from folk who have been so very low, then in no time are back to their old best of cracking jokes, talking football or arguing politics.
    That is when I think ‘this hero has beat this’.
    Some grand folk on here when needed.
     
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  3. Stephen Dawson

    Stephen Dawson Well-Known Member

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    I get what you mean. If I hadn't posted here earlier and been pm'ing with another poster. It doesn't bare thinking about.
     
  4. Gally

    Gally Administrator Staff Member Admin

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    Happy to set one up if people think it would be useful. Would it work best as a private area people could talk or should it be open to anyone to look in and read? Or both?
     
  5. Jack Tatty

    Jack Tatty Well-Known Member

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    Definitely losing the stigma it used to have.
     
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    I would leave it as an open area Gally, that way we can all chip in and try and help best we can
     
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    Jack Tatty Well-Known Member

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    Was just going to post this having given it some more thought.

    If its not broke................
     
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    That would be my thought. Sometimes it's a certain event which has triggered somebody feeling particularly low, which people on here are able to help with. We've got experts in all manner of random stuff on this footy forum, even if most of us know fck all about football!
     
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  9. Stephen Dawson

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    For me, the biggest Jump to recovery is opening up. Bottling it. is the worst part. Thinking you can handle it yourself. and that normally ends up in a downward spiral. Talking to someone. even strangers. is not a burden on them .
    When I was suffering mentally I couldn't open up to my mrs. And she was a nurse. Barmy I know. But men especially. feel vulnerable and weak. And that was certainly my problem. Male pride and all that. It is not stigmatised now. as everyone knows someone suffering and are more than willing to help.
    The most distressing thing is that the biggest group suffering. are under 25 males in a report I heard o tv the other day. . Men have, and will always think they should be the provider for example. That has become more difficult than ever in my view. We have to create a fairer society and the haves need to look in the mirror and think what can I do to help. We all know the answer to that one.
    There are other reasons other than financial. I know.
    And talking to someone is the best remedy to start with.
     
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    Think it would be better without a specific section. We've tried it in the past with different things and the sections are dead because most people only bother looking at this part of the BBS.
     
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    I just want a cuddle mate.
     
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    The vast majority of people getting mental health help I would say are white males. It should be more diverse but I think sadly within the BAME community there is still a stigma towards admitting you need help.
     
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    I've been putting on a front for years. Even before my split with Laura.
     
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    Was thinking something similar. Hate to see people
    struggling.
     
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    Si thi int mount then Stephen . Tbh I would not recognise you i don't think (I have an inkling) . But I think you would me. (Given my percies era lol) Come and have a chat if you are on your own and fancy talking b0ll0x or owt serious. I can do both.
    Or PM me. Give you my number if needed.
     
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    Cheers mate. We'll sort it.
     
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    Any ideas or groups/forums is a big thumbs up for me……we never know what kind or positive words it might have on someone so any small thing I’d better than nothing……cracking idea
     
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