A question.

You take your 13 year old niece to her first match at Oakwell. The guy (6 foot plus) in the seat behind stars effing and blinding loudly. Niece gets very upset. What would you do?

 

Size is irrelevant mate. If you're not already maybe you should think about moving to the family stand or you could tell a steward or just ask him politely if he'd mind toning it down a bit.

 

Firstly I refuse to believe that a 13 year old in todays society can get to that age without hearing profanity, but don't take that as me condoning the swearing, your options are - politely ask him to cut it out a bit, sit elsewhere, explain to your niece that unfortunately that sort of language is commonplace at football matches up & down the country, doesn't matter if it's Oakwell or Stamford Bridge, working men get together have a few jars & let off a bit of steam

 

where do you sit?

 

If she's 13 and hasn't heard swearing in every day life for a few years by now I'd send her back to the convent and give football up as a bad job.

 

how sad, we give in to the people who cannot control their anger and cannot behave like adults.

ps, its not common place up and down the country , people say that on here to defend their behaviour ,

 

Yes it is common place. Especially in football grounds.

 

which stand?

 

Not much swearing around me in the East Stand Lower. Most folk barely alive!!!

 

Whether you like it or not swearing is common place in every football ground in the country. You should get out more.

 

When I took my kids to Oakwell ,they were 6yrs or 7yrs ,I told them they would hear naughty words that we don't use ......and we sat in the Family area !!!.

 

I sit at the very end of the ESL (Ponty Road end)
It isn't the actual swear words that are frightning my niece, it's the agression behind them.
It's rubbish to say that because football is a 'working man's game' then swearing is acceptable -- most men don't swear in front of youngsters. I've yet to see a steward do anything about bad language. The upshot of this is that she doesn't want to go again.

 

Have you tried asking him politely to mind his language because you have a 13 year old girl with you.

 

Sit in the West Upper, the folk in there are that old that everytime a plane goes over someone shouts "it's ok it's one of ours".

 

Its a shame that she doesn`t want to go again and maybe its just as well because when a referee makes a diabolical decision or a player makes a terrible tackle a good percentage of the crowd are on their feet angrily venting their frustration(not all swearing mind).

Question for you did she want to go to the game in the first place or was it your idea?

 

Like.

 

lol

 

She was desperate to go -- likes Luke Steele !! -- had her photo taken with him at the Open Day.

 

O.K just wondered like.

Maybe a less populated area of the ground might be better, ask her to give it another go.

 

Nobody says swearing is acceptable but how do you police or steward 2 or 3 hundred people who swear or cuss at the same time when a debatable decision is made?

Happens from top to bottom in football.Doesn't make it right but it happens.