Advice for a friend needed

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    Barnsley chop New Member

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    My friend has just been diagnosed with lower gullit cancer and he has a 11 year old son that his ex partner will not let him see or have any contact with.His wife has phoned is ex and told her about his bad news to which see replied,tuff not her problem,and then hung up,she has later texted back saying that if his condition gets any worse the she wants to know.The courts will take too long and it is time that he doesnt have he wants to spendquality time with his son.He goes for a C.T scan on Tuesday to see how big the cancer is and too see whether it has spread to his liver.</p>

    The question is,is there anyway he can get to see his son.</p>
     
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    Barnsley chop New Member

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    Fack me no advice from anyone
     
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    Not well up enough to give good advice mate. Have you tried Citizen's Advice. They give free confidential advice. Best wishes to your mate
     
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    If I was the dad, I would just barge in the house... No matter what the woman says!! If He's desperate to see his kids, then he will break down the door to see them. I think the kids have a right to know that they're dad could be badly.......
     
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    Very difficult this one ...... so many things to take into account.....

    Eg does your mate have access currently....did he have access at the time of breaking up with his ex...did he want access after splitting up..... does the other half have a banning order.....what were the issues when they split up
    My ex took my daughter away from me (Cornwall) even though I had a court order granting me access every weekend....

    The best advice I or anyone can give is see a Solicitor ASAP

    I don't wan't to sound pessimistic but I've been through the whole wringer (twice) including going to court to gain access.....it's not quick and it's not cheap...the courts & social workers will want a settlement between the two parents involved....if the mother won't play ball then if i were him make a suggestion that he goes public newspapers telling all & sundry what a pathetic mother/person she is......
     
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    If I was him

    I'd swallow my pride and attempt to build some bridges with the ex wife as it sounds like the time for taking her on legally and being all adversarial about it, has gone. If he can get over how he feels about the child and the time he's got left, maybe she will be willing to help. I guess it depends on how big a **** he's been to her in the past.
     
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