It was bad. I never received my ballot paper. Or rather I did. It just went where I couldn't accept it. I think I need to stop dwelling on the past and hoping for a miracle though. Fact is. I'm completely lost. I've messaged a few posters and told them same. I have George overnight once a fortnight and when he goes home my purpose goes with it. To love something more than anything else in the world and know you could have avoided all this pain, this nightmare it is the lowest most degrading feeling ever. Sorry for waffling and sorry for anti Starmer 5hite I've been posting. I doubt owt will appease the constant pain.
Mate, don't worry about it, the election that is. You said some stuff that triggered some debate, that's all. There's nothing you could possibly say where everyone would agree with you anyway. It's all water under the bridge. I know how it can be to feel that one has no purpose and I wish there were easy answers. It's trite, but time does help and it's on your side. I find that engaging with doing something positive, anything, can improve one's outlook, even if it's just a matter of distraction at first. The better care you take of yourself when you're on your own, the better placed you'll be to enjoy your time with George, and what greater purpose is there than that? Bon courage Stephen, from one Pomfretian to another.
@Stephen Dawson , you ve a lifetime of being a dad. Could you negotiate seeing George more? Minimum court ordered contact would usually include a weekday as well. And as he gets older his wishes come into play more.Children know who love them and care for them, keep being the best Dad you can.
My advice for what's its worth is. Having been through and perhaps still in a period of depression myself I try not be alone too much. I also try to show little acts of kindness to others. It's actually does make you feel better even if it's just for a moment. As for your relationship with your son all I can say is that you can only try your best. In the long run children grow into adults who are able to tell if their parents tried and loved them. That may not help now but perhaps find solace in the fact you are doing all you can. If you ever need to talk to someone the offer to listen is here from me (and I'm sure others) Takes a brave person to admit they are struggling.
I believe you work in NHS. Next shift approach your line manager or union rep and express your problems and ask about wellbeing counselling. As much as folk mean well on here, it may be a better idea to seek professional advice and help. You'll need to be totally open and honest with them, conceal nothing.
Take care big lad an do yasen a favour an seek some help, good luck, by the way keep posting your funny SOMETIMES. x
Keep being the best dad you can be,the long long summer hols are nearly here I'm sure you will be needed more just be there to pick up the pieces. I was in a similar place many moons ago stay strong concentrate on your boy and I'm sure good things will come ,good luck stay strong.
That's a great shout. By the way SD, how come you've been given so little contact with George? Once a fortnight sounds incredibly harsh, not to mention detrimental to both you and George.
Definitely look into a workplace wellbeing program, your work will 100% have one. Have you been through the courts for George and requested 50% (or more) contact time with him? I think you said before that you and Laura had just worked something out informally between you and she was reducing contact to try and get more money? You need to get it sorted officially. I know you weren’t wanting to pay and you obviously want more time with him so 50/50 would achieve both those things. You don’t have to pay a penny if you have 50% contact and you’ll have a lot more time with him too.
Good call, When I worked in the Civil Service, I seem to remember our Union advising that their Solicitors offered free ‘personal advice’ to members.
Hi Steve hope you're feeling better about yourself this morning. Have you been, or thought about going to Andy's man club. Some of your feelings are things that are discussed at AMC's all around the country every Monday evening. Believe it or not, among the sad tales there are some funny moments.
