It's not all positivt

The parents of my football team have decided that they don't want me to train their kids anymore. They don't mind me using 2 evenings a week training them it's just that they don't like how i choose the team on match days. They also think that i am too competatively minded and that i take the games too serious and want to win all the time. They feel that all the kids should play in all postions and all kids should be allowed to takes corners, freekicks and penalties. I disagree! I say that the kids have to prove themselves in training. If they are good in defence they defend, if they can kick from the halfway line into goal they can take freekicks from that area. If they have the killer instinct then they play up front. But no............... They want their kids to play all positions..... Well, they'll get that on monday and they'll see just how happy their kids are then. Bet you we lose by 10 goals!

Football should be all fun and games until they are 13! (Bull ****)(babyhaha) Tell that to the other teams then!

 

Its the way everything is going for kids. You have to play the kids that can't even kick a ball. There are no failures, just deferred success. I dread to think what some of these kids will turn out like.

They need to learn at young age, life isnt always fair. They won't get everything they want. And they should learn how to lose.

In cuba, if a good kid boxer is doing well, they put him up against a much older boxer. He loses, quite badly usually. But he learns how to lose, how it feels, and it makes them determined to not let it happen as badly next time.

 

It's a difficult balance

My theory is that you should play everyone! But you have to have a balance in the team. By putting good defenders in defence and good attackers in attack you can put the weak ones in where you want.

On monday it's going to be Jimmy Nokick and Tommy WhereAmI in defence, Nick ImNotRunning and Billy Knackered in attack. The goalkeeper will be Ian IamScaredOfTheBall.

All the others will have a rest day because they worked their bollax off during the weekend. Let's see what their parents say when they run off the pitch crying after losing by 20 goals!

 

Some parents will not accept that their children aren't

and never will be good at everything.

I can remember faling out with friends at school because their parents put pressure on them to be as good /better than me. I'm not bragging but in Yr 3, I used to get top marks in weekly maths and spelling tests. One of my friends burst into tears because she "only" got 18/20 and daren't tell her dad that she had got 2 questions wrong. Mum had a quiet word with her parents but they then refused to speak to her again. They accused mum of being pushy.

Ok, I understand that to call someone a failure is upsetting but we all make mistakes and if we learn from them we usually become a better person.

Parents who always give into their children and never tell them off or say NO to the tantrums/demands make it harder for the child to get on in life.

Life is not always fair and some people have to cope with far more than others.

Positive criticism is better than negative criticism but it is still criticism.

I found out a long time ago that I wasn't good at sports activities but I try. I would not expect any of the children who are good at sports sit the game out so I can play, it wouldn't be fair on them, the team they represent or even me (I would feel guilty and upset at letting them all down)

Parents want the best for their children but should not be that pushy that the children can't enjoy being a child.

Rant over.



(angel)

 

You may not believe this, but...

I used to get full marks in everything at school too, until I got to about 14 and wasn't bothered anymore!!

I'm sure you won't make the same mistakes I made though

 

I'm totally gob smacked

How old are you?


I totally agree with everything you said. It's just so unbelievable that it came from someone of your age!

 

I believe you about the 14 year old bit

But the other part is just too far fetched to be true!

 

Laura..

are you sure you are eleven?

 

I used to be very intelligent!

Until I lost all interest in school whatsoever.

People still claim I'm intelligent, but I strongly disagree there!! Doesn't mean I'm stupid though ff

Anyway, an idea has cropped into my cranium...since you now have £6,000 you can pay all our fees to keep the BBS up and running (H)

 

Was that when you found out about..........................

the evils of drink?

I didn't mean to brag but I meant to say that my ex-friend had to stay in and do extra work at home instead of playing until her parents said she could stop. They have moved now but she was told not to talk to me.

 

The payment will be much more to be honest

They have to pay me some back pay they have been keeping from me. £3500 + £7000 + £6000...


O the joy! I have to wait 3 months for it tho!

 

Funnily enough

The alcohol didn't really come apparent until I was 15!

 

Plenty of money for the running of the BBS then! n/t

 

I'm 11 but

mum says I've been here before as I've always been very grown up for my age.

When I was younger I spentlots of time in hospital and have always got on easier with adults than children.

I ask lots of questions and if mum and dad don't know the answers we go to the library, or internet, or others (Drs.) to find them.

Books have been my way of dealing with problems.

(angel)

 

what a crock of crap

what do i remember from playing footy as a 9-10 year old? the 1st season winning only 1 match out of 15 or the season after where we won the league after a cockney bloke came and started being our manager, put me in defence instead of left chuffing wing and gave us all a huge work ethic. defo the last. still have my medal.

he was a no nonsense manager, told the star player with the wealthy dad that if he didn't start passing we would be dropped. the dad moaned, the kid dint pass, he got dropped and we started winning. the dad threatened to not buy us anymore kits unless his son played, some of the other dad's supported him but luckily my dad said ask the kids. we'd won 6 out of 7 games and we said we wanted to keep winning.

shouldn't be so competitive? fecking nobs. my 10 year old brother hates it when the lose. he loves playing footy but hates losing. he scored in the semis of a comp last sunday even tho they lost. people were saying well done and that he should be happy but he said it means nowt cos they've lost.

parents can be idiots sometimes

make them eat humble pie when they want you back

 

Yes I'm sure.

I have to get on with things, I get angry and upset that I can't always do things but mum says I'm very determined and dad says she means stubborn and that helps me cope.

Sometimes mum helps me to put into words what I mean as I get a bit unsure just how to say something without getting angry.
(angel)

 

Of course you're stubborn

You're female ff

 

I think the parents were just being kind

They didn't like the 500 push-ups you made them do for a mis-placed pass and the requirement to train in kilts.

 

Me Stubborn?

You'd better believe it!ff
(angel)

 

It comes in the female genes!!

I'm yet to meet a female who isn't stubborn.

I'm gunna regret posting this.