Mental health

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  1. Nor

    NorfolkRed Well-Known Member

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    Stress = anger = disappointment = depression = suicidal thoughts.
     
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    Hope all OK.
    We are here, and I think I speak for ALL of us.
     
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    Had a wife and two very close friends take suicidal thoughts to a permanent conclusion. Talk to someone, talk to me, talk to anybody! Suicide is permanent and stress and anger and disappointment rarely are.
     
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    I'm so sorry to hear this.
     
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    Hey, Norfolk. Thanks for coming on here and posting, that was some good thinking. Hopefully we can provide a distraction if nothing else.
     
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    Thank you.
     
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    However you feel please find someone to talk to. I've been through all this with my wife so I know how dark things can get. Just talking can do so much, even if it's talking about something trivial to start with, human contact does wonders for us.
    If you need anyone to talk to I'm sure you'll get plenty of offers on here and that includes myself.
    Nobody has to be alone.
     
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    Feel free to speak and let your emotions out mate. You're not alone
     
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    I've suffered with anxiety and depression for approximately 15yrs now.
    It's not easy, just find things to take my mind of it.
    One of the reasons I run a small youtube channel (about the reds, called IN the red corner), it gives me something to focus on.
    Always here if anyone needs a chat
     
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    The BBS is the perfect site for getting things off your chest, opening your heart. It's full of compassionate posters who will do everything they can to help.
     
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    Hey Norfolk. Hope you're OK mate.

    Have a chat with someone, doesn't have to be someone you know. PM me if it helps get something off your chest.
     
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    So very sorry to hear this. So sad
     
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    Take some of your own advice mate. Remember this. As you replied to someone else.

    Your own words
    One thing I can absolutely 100% guarantee is the support, guidance and help from these idiots I call my BBS friends that I have never met in person that I first hand have experienced on a couple of occasions when I've been struggling.

    It takes a massive amount of effort and guts to post something like this on here. You're at a low ebb, probably the lowest you ever have been when all you can see is the negative. But believe me IT WILL GET BETTER.

    When you're at the bottom there is only one direction to go in, and that's up. It's the courage to continue that counts.

    I echo everything that has been written so far and please please keep talking to us. Feel free to drop me PM, if nothing else sounding off to a complete stranger ain't a bad thing.

    Chin up mucker and remember after a winter always comes a spring.
    Norfolkred

    My own advice from experience. Yours was invaluable.
    Plenty on here will offer their help. and that's great. But if possible, Tell someone closest to you.( Be it family/work colleague) I hid my issues to my nearest and dearest. Big mistake. as i felt guilty. Not wanting them to know how I was. Some don't recognise mental stress. As we are sometimes good at hiding it.
    I finally saw the company nurse and opened up. And luckily I was given free access to a local counsellor. (Who was fantastic at listening to anything you want to discuss. Only giving an opinion at just the right time. So important) For as long as it took.i now talk openly to anyone who wishes to listen.
     
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    Please try to remember that everything that is making you feel like that is temporary. There are better days ahead, and you are important. To friends, family and to the BBS. You can get through. So many people here to help.
     
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    Nah I'm done this time
     
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    'this time' refers to a situation - literally a point in time.

    So does 'next time'.

    I want you to have a next time, cos it means you got through this time.

    Hang in there. Read the posts in this thread, there are some kind words.

    Please don't give up
     
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    Many on here will know of my mental health issues in lockdown & intervened to help me. I saw my business shut down for 18 months and was pretty much in solitary. For someone like me that was enough to push me over the edge, as I'm borderline bipolar.

    A great place to post & always here for PMs from the OP or anyone else. I have few answers, as every crisis is personal IMO. I'm still battling the dark cloud of depression at times and always will do.
     
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    no you really aren’t we are all here happy to talk owt through!
     
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    Mate, this time will pass. Stay on here, get through tonight. Don't think beyond that for now. If you need more help tomorrow then we can do that then.
     
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