Moral dilemma: what do you do?

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  1. Spooky

    Spooky Well-Known Member

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    I'm about to leave university and i've succeeded in getting myself a job interview, so to speak. It's for essentially my dream job and I foolishly published it on facebook (rookie mistake). I've now got a friend, on the same course as me, asking for the details on the woman that I originally approached asking for the placement/interview.

    What do you do? Tell him no, I got off my backside to get myself this, stop trying to copy me (so to speak)
    OR give him the details and hope/pray you do better in the job interview?

    Sorry if any of this sounds snobbish but i'm sure people have been in this situation before!
     
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    Delete the status and pretend it never happened :)
     
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    Tell him to get off his arse and look for jobs himself.
     
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    MrsHallsToffeerolls Well-Known Member

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    If its thi dream job then its a no brainer.
     
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    dennis-skinner Banned Idiot

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    share the info with them, if you don't get the position you may need some info off them about other jobs in the future
     
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    Spooky Well-Known Member

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    That's the thing. I got the placement through turning up to a guest lecture at 9:15 on a Monday morning, and approaching her afterwards and asking her about the possibility of a work placement in the summer. He, on the other hand, was still in bed and sleeping his life away. Annoying.
     
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    Keep it to yourself, have the interview, wait for the outcome, then decide whether to tell your mate about it.

    And don't EVER put anything about your past, present or future employers on Farcebook. They'll stumble across it one day and if it's anyway detrimental you'll end up losing your job.
     
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    Spooky Well-Known Member

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    It was in no way detrimental. It was a status of jubilation that they've decided to take me on for a week, which looking back, was feckin stupid.
     
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    jobs especially dream jobs are at a premium, so I'd keep it to myself TBH. If it was an advertised position maybe not such an issue but you had the get up and go and the initiative so why should they sit on their arse and have it all hade on plate? Id compromise ad tell him if you get knocked back then he can have the info.
     
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    Not saying it was detrimental, but most companies have policies on it these days and I've seen loads of people moaning about their employers on FB. Many of my own friends do it. I'm amazed at what they put, some of it personal abuse to named individuals. If their employer ever saw it they'd be out like a shot. Save it for the pub.

    Good luck with the interview by the way.
     
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    Yeah, I know exactly what you mean. As I said before, it's not really an interview per se. It's a week placement, but she said that they're looking for individuals in this field and if I can impress in the week that i'm there then there may be a job lined up at the end of it. Here's hoping but cheers anyway!
     
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    Tell him to p!ss off, you got off your arse and got yourself the interview. Good luck btw hope it goes well.
     
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    Unfriend him
     
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    As far as a solution goes, that pretty much covers it. However, he's been one of my closest friends while at university so probably not the best thing to do. He's just ridiculously lazy and repeatedly tells me that the only thing he's learnt from this course is that he doesn't want do it anymore. So, I'm going to use that against him when I explain why i'm not giving him the e-mail.
     
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    Or say someone "fraped" you....
     
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    Have him killed, cut out the competition. Then set about learning how to do your bosses job. Then frame her for the murder of your friend. Does the CEO have a daughter?
     
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    Do his mum.
     
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    Sort yourself out first. Tell your mate you'll put a good word in for him, if you get a permanent position. And as Stahlrost says, keep all work stuff off Facebook.
     
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    There is an old Yorkshire saying my friend.
    Hear all, see all, say nowt, and if tha ever does owt alway do it for the sen
     
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    Tell him that seein as your good mates that if tha gets set on thall purra good word in for him
     
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