Relationships

This is the extremely short version of the story. I love a girl (i am male lol) and she loves me. There is an age difference and because of this complications. Her family and friends try to set her up with guys knowing she is single. But she cannot come out and say how she feels about me being older then her. There is 7 years between us and her family will rightfully or wrongly stereotype me saying im going to hurt her, only after one thing etc. And if she told her family about me they would make her life hell. Maybe people who have experienced problems with age gaps before can tell me if there is any way of getting around the girls parents if we tell them how we feel that they would accept me, and not just stereotype me for my age that i would hurt there daughter. Thank you.

 

Age is just a number

Go for it mate (Y)

 

If it's love, mate.

They'll have to accept that. Age means f**k all.

 

Love

Yeah we both agree age is just a number. But i don't think her family would see it like that. We ain't together because we don't want her getting bothered by her family. So i have to find a way to be accepted by them so if we got together and went public they wouldn't fly off the handle.

 

Age is relative

Are you 22 and she 15 Then I can see a problem
Are you 27 and she 20 Perhaps No problem
Are you 37 and she 30 No problem

Most women prefer a more mature man.

 

RE: Age is relative

Your on the bottom with the first one. They will think i will use her and have sex with her and hurt her etc. I would do none of them. We have so much in common and it gets us both down because of the barrier in our way.

 

RE: Age is relative

So, she is 15?

 

RE: Love

Realistically, it's got nothing to do with her parents. It's her choice who she falls for. They might not like it, but if they love their daughter and she loves you, they accept her choice or run the risk of alienating her.

Seven years is nothing. Age gaps? Sod 'em.

 

Well

If she's 15 then I would exercise extreme caution.

Better to keep clear.

If you really love her then what can anyone tell you?
Otherwise is it worth the potential trouble?

 

RE: Age is relative

Yeah she is. Cue the stereotyping of me that her parents would do hence why we ain't together. I guess people are thinking why don't we sneak around behind her parents backs ? Well because when you feel this strongly you want it out in the open or not at all.

 

She's 15?

Different matter.

Give it a year, and then it's her choice...

 

RE: Age is relative

I still stick by my original statement of age just being a number.

You'll have to meet the parents, tell them how you both feel, and convince them.

I may be wrong here, and I do not mean to cause any offence, but can she be certain, at such a young age, that it is love?

 

RE: Well

I can only get in trouble if i have underage sex and i ain't that stupid. We just want to be closer but her dad doesn't take much to get mad and her older brother aint much better. "Hello mum and dad this is the guy i love. He is 22". Yeah that would go down like a lead balloon and she would be grounded for life.

 

Is It Love On Her Part ?

True she is only 15. But i know things about her that girls i have been out with in the past who were older never told me. She says she loves me more then any of her ex boyfriends. And she was really into her last boyfriend. And the guys she tends to like are older. Probably because girls are mean't to mature at a younger age then guys.

 

Well

My 15 year old niece goes out with an 18+ lad.

My family gradually accepted him and think he is really good for her now after initial worries.

You will have to be patient with her family if you really care about her.

It wont be easy though.

Be careful and mindful of her families justified concerns.

 

You're giving advice on lurve?

I might set up a self help class on how to look hard and scare people.

 

If I Was In There Shoes.........

I would be worried too for my daughter. But i feel it is best to give someone a chance rather then pre judge them. If you show that your in love at the end of the day they would hopefully want to get to know me rather then run the risk of her meeting me behind there back. Some of her mates know about me. The other person who knows about me is her brothers, girlfriends, best friend. And she said we should go for it. Next step would be the girlfriend, then the brother, then the parents.

 

My only concern, as it were,

Is that at 15, does she really know what love is?

Surely you remember when you were that age, hormones flying all over the place, thinking you were in love with someone different every week! Hey, I hope for you she knows what she's on about and she is in love...I'm just pointing out the worst case scenario.

 

Grow up and find someone your own age,leave school kids alone