What to do?

Just found out my girlfriend (admittedly of only 6 months) who has two kids had them both to different guys and she has been wed twice too. Oh and she can't have kids now which I really want.

Headf*ck? I think so!

 

ditch the b*tch!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

You could always adopt.

She did well to keep those secrets!

 

Well I knew about the bin lids obviously and one marriage. But yea the first marriage and the different surnames has knocked me for six somewhat!

 

That certainly isn't something many would take lightly!

Hope you make the right decision for yourself

 

You've Got To Think

Do you like her enough to give her another chance & if you do could you ever trust her again? I told a lass afew untruths but nothing on that scale but she forgave me.

But i must say she's done well to hide it from you for 6 months

Good Luck matey what ever you do

 

Honesty is a big part of a relationship; I've found that out through bitter and painful experience. If she couldn't be honest about something like that then you will struggle to trust her 100%. And the kids issue is likely to become a bigger scar as time goes by. Obviously you wanting one of your own is very important to you. Only you can decide; i always trust my insticts.

 

Oh and good luck whatever you choose.

 

I haven't a scooby what to do guys.

 

tell her you want to **** her and her best girl mate at the same time to help you get over the shock....

 

You don't half know how to pick 'em. How much hasn't she told you. There must be quit a few Barnsley girls who could put her in the shade, which in my eyes wouldn't take much doing.

 

Don't take any advice from the gimps on here

And yes, that includes me.

 

It could be that when she met you she liked you a lot and didn't want to scare you off. Funny how long people sometimes wait for the right time to let something out. Days turn into weeks, weeks into months and what seemed at the time to be a relatively unimportantomission turns into a potential relationship destroyer. It can't have been easy for her all this time and she must have taken a lot of courage for her to come clean.</p>

Maybe you could explain that lack of trust isthe mostdestructive thing andagree to make a fresh start and draw a line under all deception.</p>

 

Stick with her.

 

Listen, thanks for all the advice. One minute I know what to do, the next I haven't a clue! I wanna be with her and her past I can deal with. The trusting we can work on. The not having kids when she has provided for two other guys, a reminder that is there every time I go to hers, I'm not so sure.

 

you're answer is in your signature.......

 

I didn't think I could have kids. Gave up on it.

Then he arrived years later. He's in the same room now (with mate), obsessed, playing Dead Rising on XBOX360.

Says something about my parenting skills.

If you really want one, don't forget it turns out even better when you've actually got one.

So the chick has to be something more than special.

 

my honest opinion

A very difficult position to be in mate.

My opinion (for what it is worth). You have to decide how important it is to you to have children. Might be better to think of a scale of 1-10. With 10 being essential. If you decide that you really do need to have children, and she is not willing/not able to provide children you have to make the hard decision. You should finish the relationship now as you will never be truly happy. You may even grow resentful of your partner for stopping you being a parent. This might mean the relationship comes to an end in 2, 5 or 10 years time, by which time it may be getting late for you to start a family.

So if you can live without children make a go of the relationship if you can't, finish it now before it creates the inevitable heartache.

 

AAAAARRRRRGH!!!!!!

 

you have be really honest with yourself when deciding how important being a Dad is to you. Don't kid yourself mate otherwise you will resent yourself aswell.