Etiquette

Bang out of order. You were doing him a favour and being nice. You now realise you need the ticket after all and he's being a dick about it. Kick him in the boy bits

 

Tell him if he doesn't give you it back it will get reported stolen as it's your ticket so he wont get in anyway and if he wishes to use it in future then suggest he gives you it back and stop being a dick. Then once you get it back never offer it to the **** again.

 

What an absolute prize end

 

What a ***** trick. Either doesn't value your friendship or is one of those people that doesn't have a filter.

 

I'm going to break the consensus and say that if you offer somebody something and they accept, you should be gracious enough to follow through, even if your circumstances change. If you were to offer to help somebody to move house, for example, you should follow through with your favour even if you get a better offer. Your mate may have made arrangements already in regard to seeing people, or childcare, or may have turned down other plans because they believed they had been given a ticket, I'd say it's bad form to then say no.

 

Minority of one. At least on here.

If he’s rearranged things, then he can buy a ticket and still go.

The offer was made in good faith, merely a favour. Circumstances altered, the mate unfortunately misses out on a freebie, after all it’s his ticket.

 

I get that, but the OP is now out of pocket because he's paid for his season ticket and now going to have to pay on the gate as well.

 

Is he a friend or just a colleague? If I was quite friendly with him, with it being the season of goodwill and all that, I'd POSSIBLY have offered to split the cost of the matchday ticket with him, depending on few variables which are not clear from reading your initial post. However, his point blank refusal to return what is your property makes him sound like a bit of a tit, so I'd probably be reporting it stolen as others on here have suggested.

 

Have to agree with you mate, shouldn't be an Indian giver.

 

Tis the season of giving and good will to all men (And women as long as it's not in meadowhall) .Don't get mad get even .

 

Indian Giver!

But your workmate should be saying that to you as he hands back your ST.

 

I'd agree if the friend was willing to give the ticket back. I've given mine to a mate in the past, then been able to go to the game. Usually me and my mate then go halves to a match day ticket. Costs me £12.50 for the inconvenience I've caused and him and him the same to watch the reds.

In regards to the OP. He's well out of order. You've paid a fortune for the ticket in the first place and if he can't grasp that, I certainly wouldn't be doing him any other favours.

My suggestion is to buy a match day ticket, loosen your usual seat so that it drops a few inches every time he sits on it. That could get annoying.

Or get there just ahead of him, just so he can see you urinating on it. Then you can say to him, whilst in the act, "this is my territory".

Hope you get it sorted.

 

Depends on how long he’s had offer of ticket and arrangements he’s made.
I’ve never personally asked for a present back

 

Tw@ him

 

Didn’t anyone notice your Missus getting rattled during quiet spells in the match?

 

COLLATERAL When someone as in your case gives another person a gift, the gift becomes the personal property of the recipient. Unfortunately for you the said gift ie the ticket can be used however they wish, they themselves could or even have passed it on.

 

Difference between lending someone something and giving them it as a permanent gift

 

Arguing oher who gets to go when we haven't even scored a goal at home since the start of November! That's support!

 

The thing ere is its a ticket, it can only be used once, hence its a gift, a gift is a gift is a gift. I'm not trying to be awkward i'm just stating an opinion.

 

I think there’s two things going on here.

1. Once given, it’s not really polite of the Op to ask for it back. I guess it wouldn’t hurt to speculatively mention it but it was given away and it is kind of messing the workmate about.
2. Once the Op has asked for it back, the workmate should just give it back, it’s not really theirs after all and the Op was just doing him a favour. He might feel disgruntled and messed about but at the end of the day, the Op paid for it and I’m presuming made it clear that he was only giving it away because he couldn’t go himself.

Etiquette seems to be off on both sides really but on balance the workmate seems to be the most out of order.