Anxiety

I agree. I took fluxotein. Half of the time I got sloppy and stopped taking them. Then took them. It only benefited me when I wanted to bang my missus. Lasted along as Marceo rigters goal drought

 

Don't let it ruin your life, refer yourself to the Leeds Wellbeing Service, they're a good bunch over there (used to work for them).

 

Thanks, it is just something I am very passionate about and I don't like seeing others suffer without support. Life doesn't have to be that way.

 

Probably because scaffolding feels more secure?

 

Suffered for 30 years with anxiety and depression. Had to visit crisis team once as I couldn't see a way out. Only control mine through medication - it seems to work for me.
I've found last few months really tricky but the medication has helped me greatly. If you need anyone to talk to then please drop me a message - good to talk sometimes. Plenty on here would offer similar I'm sure.

 

It does you great credit. If we were having a BBS Poster Of The Year award, you'd definitely get my vote.
Good luck to Allendale-Red and best wishes for your upcoming wonderful event with your partner.

 

Some resources I've put together for people:


NHS (or NHS Commissioned) Regional Talking Therapies (free!)

Barnsley IAPT: https://www.barnsleyiapt.co.uk/

Sheffield IAPT: https://iaptsheffield.shsc.nhs.uk/

Kirklees IAPT: https://kirkleesiapt.co.uk/

Wakefield Turning Point: https://talking.turning-point.co.uk/wakefield/contact-us/

Leeds Wellbeing Service: https://www.leedscommunityhealthcare.nhs.uk/our-services-a-z/leeds-mental-wellbeing-service/home/


Misc Support

Andys Man Club (free support group for men): https://andysmanclub.co.uk/

CALM (Campaign Against Living Miserably):
https://www.thecalmzone.net/help/get-help/mental-health/

Mind: https://www.mind.org.uk/


Crisis

Contact your GP during hours.

111 outside working hours.

If you feel you cannot keep yourself safe, attend at your nearest hospital- they normally have specialist mental health practitioners there.

Samaritans: https://www.samaritans.org/how-we-c...PXInvgt-l90-Lu23sQyqU_O9eYcqIvGMaAvJDEALw_wcB



If anyone wants anything else let me know.

 

That made me snort, so true and brilliantly put.

 

Look at the links that @TitusMagee has listed. I sought some support in the summer of 2017 - work was tough, my Dad had just been diagnosed with lung cancer, just felt like I was spinning plates and it was my wife who suggested speaking to my GP.

I was referred to the service based at Cudworth (not sure if it's there now, but was in the "old" GP surgery on Rose Tree Avenue). Don't feel uncomfortable, they were brilliant. Knew when to listen, knew when to advise. Ended up doing a kind of group workshop in a place off County Way (The Core) and the support was fantastic. Quite an eye opener how many people were there, its a problem that feels very much like it affects you in isolation, the reality is quite different.

The BBS was wonderful support, and I know he doesn't like me singling him out, but @arabian_ian was a great help too and became a lifelong friend.

12 months later, I'd lost my Dad and my job through redundancy, Reds were relegated, and felt able to cope much better with it all.

Good luck, and look after yourself.

 

In all likelihood few years ago we wouldn't have had a thread like this because no one wanted to admit to having anxiety/mental health issues.
A R I commend you for being brave enough to post the OP.
Now we have a lot of posters telling others of their own experiences and how they coped. The problem with 'anxiety' I find is that anxiety about one thing can run into anxiety about other things so that what should be a 'normal' amount of anxiety about one thing sort of doubles or trebles.
You are naturally anxious about the new baby - anxious about the new job - possibly anxious about money matters and what happens all these anxieties join up so that the anxiety about the new baby is huge. ( not explaining this very well!)

I wonder if anyone else in your family is anxious and you are picking that up as well?

When I hit the buffers my 'saviour' was an old school friend who listened to me and supported me. I actually asked him to do that. Often people are reluctant to step in and sometimes family members are not the best people to help.

There are some very knowledgeable people on this site - especially Titus M. - he knows what he's talking about - pm him and see where you get to.

 

Great advice regarding the medication, I was put on a course of anti depressants by my GP a number of years ago but after 8 days I stopped taking them as they were causing more problems than I already had, panic attacks, nightmares, weird thoughts, it was hell, I'd never advocate taking tablets as like you say they can mask the real problem and give the sufferers a false sense and in many cases people become dependent of them, talking is a lot better route

 

For some people though, life long medication is the only way. Like all health problems, cures can vary.

 

Medication does have its place and therapy doesn't work for everyone. CBT has a recovery rate of about 50% so its not always successful but it is the best we have. Antidepressants have been shown at times to be as effective as placebos in trials. I am not anti meds and I apologise if I gave that impression. They can just be counter-productive with anxiety as they can keep the problem going under the surface.

I would never rule medication out, just be mindful that if you're trying to overcome your anxieties it can sometimes get in the way. Especially diazepam and propranolol.

If you are going for antidepressants, try and ride the first fortnight out. It takes about 6-8 weeks for them to properly kick in and do not stop taking them until at least 6 months after you feel better as this helps to minimise the risk of relapse.

 

Excellent advice from Titus M.

(Just to clarify CBT in this context means Cognitive Behaviour Therapy - it has nothing to do with the CBT which (according to a friend!) goes on in the Dungeons of Attercliffe.)

 

Speak to people. Friends. Family. Professionals. GP. Samaritans. Early outreach team. Don’t be afraid to open up.

 

Tremendous stuff Titus, and I think this is great advice. Do we also need to flag up that some people may also be bipolar? As I understand it, this is to do with chemical imbalances in the brain which need to be addressed before CBT can help with further recovery?

 

As the resident librarian can I also point out that if you don’t feel ready or able to phone or talk to anyone in person or go to your GP there are lots of self help books out there. I often finds it takes looking through a few to find something that sticks and it can be a case of just cherry picking the bits that work for you. It’s a good way to get anonymous help though. There’s lots of free ones on Amazon and Google Books and of course libraries stock a wide variety that you can just take to the self service machines.

 

Yeah that's correct, more severe and enduring mental illnesses such as psychosis and bipolar affective disorder are best treated with medication and support from professionals. There is an evidence base for CBT too

 

Some books I'd recommend:

The worry cure- Dr Robert Leahy
Mind over mood- Christine Padesky
Any of the 'overcoming' series such as overcoming low self esteem by Melanie Fennell.

 

This is a great resource and it would be good if was more prominent on the site for future reference.