Help Advice PLEASE...ABOUT POLICE BREAKING

Firstly he wasnt on duty...secondly he has no kids living there. He simply went through to see her and visit breaking social distancing and potentially risking my kids

 

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Sorry I misread the situation earlier- no he should definitely not be going in there mate. If you don't think having words is going to make a difference then you need to report them if you are concerned.

I don't live with my other half so haven't see her or her kids for 3 weeks. It is the right thing to do and your ex and her bloke are being selfish about it.

 

Are you seeing them? Are they staying with you on some days?

 

Whilst it’s the boyfriend who broke the distancing rules he only did it with the permission of your ex.
That’s where the real issue should lie, the conversation should start with her first and foremost.
Failing that I would next speak to him as he may not fully understand the situation with your son.

Appreciate it sounds like not an easy situation, but she needs to see what she is allowing and the potential implications.

 

It doesn't matter who's permission he got.

If your mate tells you to go to his house, that's still breaking the rules

 

But that’s not really the issue is it?
The issue is surely about her letting him, she is supposed to be responsible for the sons safety and is clearly endangering him that’s the real issue

 

The police are never off duty anything they do in their private life can affect their career just as much as if they were on duty when they did it.

 

Seriously mate my previous comment stands. Re social services. If she doesn’t listen to you. Call em in. I know that could lead to difficulties in the future. So I would not normally comment. But your kids wellbeing is your priority.

 

If he's got joint "custody" (he hasn't by the way, cos it's no longer a recognised legal concept) then why not have the child reside with him, report the matter to the social services and refuse to return the child without the appropriate assurances?

The age of the child would be relevant.

The "policeman" angle is a red herring.

Furthermore, if the ex and the copper are separated, what's he doing there anyway?

Anyway, yep you're right - social services, once you've got possession of child. Possession is 9/10ths of the law, dontchaknow.

 

Furthermore, if the ex and the copper are separated, what's he doing there.[/QUOTE]


Unless I have misread. The ex and copper are not separated.

 

I’d go with this advice if you can’t sort it out with your ex as adults , however if you have a defined contact order from the court I’d make sure you have your facts right before taking things into your own hands

 

I agree with what others have said. I would do it in this order:

1. Speak to her and if that doesn't work
2. Speak to him
3. If they still don't listen then report to social services

I wouldn't report him to his employer at this stage but I'd let him know that I would if he ignores me and continues to go to the house.

 

Utter nonsense. Mental women are waaaaayyyyy better in bed. Fact.

 

He's seperated from his ex. The policeman is her new bloke who she has only just got with.

There's actually provisions in place for this. If he has joint custody during this lockdown it is his right to refuse to return the child if he believes doing so would endanger him. They clarified it specifically for this.

 

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