Mental health

People are here to help you in whatever way you want.

 

My sister's dead. We've recently passed 22 years. It's easy to keep count because my niece celebrated her 22nd birthday recently and my sister killed herself 3 weeks after my niece was born. So that birthday is filled with joy. Postpartum psychosis. Which didn't even exist then. Her third child. F**k everyone who claims to know what we went through between her first and when she died.

So, here you go, my sister conned my brother about what she was doing, sneaked out of the house and chucked herself off the motorway bridge on Churchfield Lane, Darton West. He was guarding her to stop her killing herself. So he lives with that. Because we got no mental health support back then, because it didn't exist.

She had 30 years of Bipolar depression to cope with. I've done 50 years of it, but I'm still here.

I hate this new touchy feely approach to mental illness. I hate it. Nobody has a clue.

But suicide destroys generations that follow you. It never, ever goes away. Don't you f**king dare.

 

Talk to me. About anything. What did you have for Tea? What are you watching on TV? Did you watch the womens footy Sunday night? Brill weren't it?

 

Have a chat to someone mate; me, anyone on here, MIND charity, samaritans, anyone. I'm sure it'll help and then go from there.

 

I really don't have too much to add to what other people have said.

However, suicide is not the answer to any question. Ever. The impact on those left behind is horrendous and never ending. Not just family members but friends, neighbours and even emergency services staff or the poor unfortunate that discovers the body.

There is always somewhere to turn, sometime who will listen and, as cheesy as it is to use the phrase, things will get better. The cloud will pass.

I've spent much of my adult life on mental health meds of some kind. They aren't the answer but they help take the edge off while you get settled enough to deal with the issues and try to move forward.

I know I'm just an internet stranger and we have no history of interaction but if you need to send someone a private message I'm willing to take the time to read and discuss.

I hope whatever is troubling you lifts soon and you can look back at this time as something you beat.

 

Been there. Others have on here. There’s proof all around you that it can get better.

Hang in there. I promise there’s help out there. And even more importantly, people who care. Even if you can’t see it yet, I promise you there is.

Hang in there mate x

 

Please read this and reach out:

https://www.nsft.nhs.uk/help-in-a-crisis/

 

Hey Norfolk,

None of us on here know what you’re going through at the moment but you’ve taken the first step by reaching out. I’ve never met a poster on here in person but I’m damn sure that I could call on any of them to be a sounding board for what’s currently going on at any time. Don’t bottle it up, talk to someone, talk to anyone and if you’re not comfortable with that somewhere like here please call the Samaritans or reach out to your local Andy’s Man Club who do some incredible things and are there to listen and help.

life is a *****. It boots you down in the most in opportune moments but we only get one go around and when the dark clouds do pass it can be an absolutely wondrous thing.

 

If you are feeling this way and can't access support please contact the crisis team at your local hospital - they were great with me

 

Couple of things Norfolk.

You can be hit with all the clichés - it's a permanent solution to a temporary problem, there's better days ahead, you don't take the pain away, you pass it on, etc, etc.

However, at the moment you don't want to hear that. You don't want to be pitied, you don't want other people telling you how you should feel because you KNOW how you feel.

But stop and reflect on one of those clichés - you don't take it away, you only pass it on. There is no truer phrase.

There are people out there who will be terribly hurt if you act on those thoughts. Even if you can't think of them clearly now because of the fog enveloping you, they are there and you will hurt them.

You don't need a life plan right now, you don't need your life mapped out, just worry about waking up in the morning and once you've ticked that off, worry about making it to bed tomorrow.

Then repeat.

Maybe after ticking enough of those days off your perspective may change, even only a bit, but that's progress.

But don't pass the pain on, no-one deserves that, and you're better than that, even if right now you can't believe that - you are, honestly and truthfully - you are.

Check in tomorrow fella and then we'll look at the day after that.

 

Private message me if there's anything you think I can help with.

 

I've lost far too many people to suicide in my relatively short life already, a couple of them very close. To echo what others have said - it's really not reversible, whereas pretty much any other problem in life can be solved. Hang in there, feel free to message me or anyone else on here. I can't claim to be any sort of expert, but I'll do what I can.

 

Well Norfolk new days here hope you’re feeling more positive this morning, if not get in touch with someone. Shared problems don’t go away but feel more manageable.

 

Norfolk, anything I can do to help… let me know. We all care about you and what you’re going through. Take the small steps pal, it won’t be easy.. but you’ve made a start.

 

Hey mate, I'm just up the road in Norwich and very happy to drive down for a coffee and a chat. When I had my own issues I found talking to people incredibly helpful.

Just PM me and let me know when suits

 

Ayup @NorfolkRed lad. Hope you're ok this morning. What part of the beautiful county of Norfolk do you live in? My sister-in-law lives near Downham Market, if you're near there, we'll meet up for a pint next time we go down there.

 

It sez Windam on their profile.

 

Suffered with mental health and anxiety for a long time if you need to talk drop me a message. Please don't suffer alone

 

Let us know how you are today NorfolkRed. Please.

 

Has anyone had their offer of contact taken up?

His profile says he was online earlier today