[Non Footy] Feeling pretty down right now

Don't let it ruin you're big day, remember it for the right reasons and not for the time wasters that dropped out. Weddings are an excuse for a good drink with close friends right? If they can't make the effort then **** em, they're the ones missing out, not you.

 

Still trying to picture my brother as a lap dancer - just can't imagine it somehow! I know you're all right. I've bumped people up from the evening to the day now. The evening is going to look a bit pathetic, we'd booked 120 and now there will be just over 80. It's a bit of a waste but hey ho, more for me eh?

 

you have pm

 

Me? I haven't received one.

 

i'll pop along and knock the living day lights out of the snap if you want

 

Nowt wrong wi 80 people.

More than what turn up to a Doncaster Rovers game.

 

If you have spare places offer them out as prizes for the "Guess the Crowd" competition for Saturday. Nearest 15 get a +1 invite

But seriously, good luck.

 

Well, that's another 3 not coming. One just can't make it now - didn't even bother coming up with an excuse. The other's PHD deadline is coming up so they need to work through the weekend so neither them nor their partner can make it (did they only just get the deadline yesterday or something?)

 

Haha, at this rate you can all come along. 40 odd spaces going free You just need to be able to make it to Derbyshire, tell me how beautiful I look and not trash the place.

 

Ooh I got wed in Derbyshire. Everyone turned up mind ))

 

Where in Derbyshire?

 

Thanks Extremely Northern, you've got a very eloquent way with words

 

I think it's a disgrace.

Not many things can trump a wedding really. It should take something really important and unavoidable which seems unlikely at this stage. Just seems disrespectful to me.

 

Take note of this one.

At least they say they arent going. We got married last month. 50 yes fifty didnt come at night who said they were. 600 quids worth of catering right down the pot. Only one couple got a real excuse. Grandmother died day before. The rest. Well I dont really share my enthusiasm with them any more. The ones that mean something WILL be there. And to be honest whilst you are disappointed it will be the best day of your life. We want to do it again and do you know what.... you wont miss the ones that don't come.

All the best and enjoy your day

 

Thanks Nez! I think the hardest bit for me is that I just don't understand. I would never, ever do that. In their defence none of these people are married and I don't think they realise how much it actually means to us (and how much it costs). I also think that they think they are the only ones letting us down and that it won't matter so much.

 

One more thing.

The best piece of advice I can give is to take as much in as possible. Trust me It will fly by. (Weddings can go slow if it's not you) And if I hadn't received that advice I would probably regret not taking as much notice of everything as I did.

 

don't let it spoil your big day, when me and our lass had our engagement do some of her mates dropped on the day and she got upset but told her don't let it ruin the party and one of my best mates text me 10 mins before the do to say he couldn't make it, if they don't go then there missing out. a year after my engagement do my mate (the one who didn't come to my do) came round with an invite to his wedding do and asked me if ill be able to make it, I just said to him "id love to go but its peterboro away that day so sorry ..... have a good one.

 

I get ya. Same with us. Its a shame but it happens every wedding ive known about. Dont take it personally. And certainly dont think about it. Its a shame but I nearly let it get the better of me until I thought... Well look at the ones who are here.

 

Hehe, it's easy to say, but really, you won't notice the non attendees. It's all abart thee anyroad.

 

I didn't really expect to, with them not being there and all